Bye-Bye Paci

Dear Melissa,

My daughter is about to have her first birthday, and we want to start weaning her from the pacifier. Any tips?

I too started weaning both my children from the pacifier around 1 year of age. And, in my experience, the final step of eliminating the pacifier completely at 2 years of age was one of the hardest things I have done as a parent!

Again, a pacifier is a strong source of comfort for many infants/toddlers. And for children with Autism and/or Sensory Processing Disorders, letting go of this consistent source of self-soothing can be particularly difficult. Why exactly do we feel it is necessary to take something away that our little ones so dearly love? Well, nobody ever said parenting was easy. We are the adults. We know that pacifier use shouldn’t last forever. As I have discussed in several recent blog posts, extended pacifier use can hamper speech development, social development, as well as dental/oral structure.

Again, this is HARD. There are many tricks you can try to help the weaning process along, but ultimately a child should be weaned from pacifier use by 2-3 years of age to prevent long term complications/delays. What trick(s) you try vary widely depending on the age of the child. Here are a few of my favorites:

Wean early  

If you stop the pacifier “cold turkey” before 6 months of age, the baby hasn’t really developed the chance to voice a strong opinion in the matter. Yes, there will likely be a few days of crying as she learns a different method of self soothing, and you will likely find her wanting to nurse or drink from a bottle more frequently during this time. However, many parents swear that this “cold turkey” method is way easier in infancy than waiting until she has grown into an opinionated toddler. 

Wean gradually 

I personally used this approach. You slowly disallow the pacifier in more and more environments until you are only left with the night-time pacifier (which is hard to give up!).  You might start with “no paci at daycare”, then “no paci while playing”, etc. In my house, we worked pretty quickly to the pacifier only being allowed in the car seat and crib. This makes bedtime and car rides much more enticing, but it is also very hard to wean the pacifier away from these times when soothing is so needed!

 Make it less desirable

This method works so well that the people at the One Step Ahead store have even created a product to mimic it. But, let me save you $29.95 plus S&H! For this method, you take away all of the pacifiers in the environment except for 2-3. The child can have these pacifiers any time she wants. BUT, you begin to very gradually cut off the tips of these pacifiers, millimeter by millimeter, at whatever pace you choose, until the child is only left with the hard plastic part, and nothing left to chew on. (Warning: Make sure that the remaining plastic part is not a choking hazard). As the rubbery nipple gets smaller and smaller, the child will loose interest, and no longer ask for it. Problem solved, no tears!

Give it away

This method is more appropriate for an older child. The child must be old enough to understand cause and effect and be able to participate in simple storytelling. Often this occurs around 2-3 years of age. For this technique, you discuss with the child that she is getting older and is now a “big kid”. As part of the story, she can either give the pacifier away (such as to the baby classroom at daycare), or she can leave it for the “Paci Fairy”.  Better yet, choose to do this around Christmas/Easter and have Santa or the Easter Bunny do their magic. Whatever story you choose, the magical entity takes pacifiers to babies, and your now "big kid" kiddo may enjoy a new "big kid" toy from the Paci Fairy or Easter Bunny. But here is the kicker. Once you make this exchange, YOU CANNOT GO BACK TO THE PACIFIER! If you turn back now, your child will know that they can make you change your mind any other time in the future that you try to set a firm limit. Not a fun situation to get into with a toddler! Another disclaimer with this technique is that you do not want to give the pacifier away to a close cousin or a new sibling. This can just create jealousy and resentment toward the new baby in her life. 

A word of caution

Pacifiers are soothing. And again, they are particularly soothing for children with Autism or Sensory Processing Disorders. If you take away something that is soothing from your child, she will generally find her own replacement item/activity that is self-soothing. Sometimes what your child uses as the new self-soother is even worse than the pacifier! This is a whole different problem on how to fix inappropriate oral sensory seeking. For tips on this, see my previous blog on this issue.

Do you have a question you would like me to address or ideas about pacifier weaning? 

Don't hesitate to share!

share@childrenstherapyteam.com

Resources: 

Ask Dr. Sears: Weaning Off Pacifier, Parenting.com, accessed July 2015

Are Pacifiers OK...A Dentist's Take, Monday's with Melissa Blog, Children's Therapy TEAM, posted June 15, 2015  

Night Time Pacifier Use, Monday's with Melissa Blog, Children's Therapy TEAM, posted July 6, 2015  

Oral Sensory Seeking Help, Monday's with Melissa Blog, Children's Therapy TEAM, posted September 15, 2014

Pacifiers: In or Out?, WebMD, accessed July 2015 

Pacifier Mistakes, Monday's with Melissa Blog, Children's Therapy TEAM, posted June 29, 2015  

Pacifier Time vs. Language Development, Monday's with Melissa Blog, Children's Therapy TEAM, posted June 22, 2015 

10 ways to help your child give up the pacifier, Babycenter.com, accessed July 2015

Night Time Pacifier Use

Dear Melissa,

Whenever my 10-month-old cries at night, I respond by giving him a pacifier. The problem is that he cries 4 or 5 times a night until a pacifier magically reappears in his mouth again. Help, I'm sleep deprived! How do I wean this child from his pacifier?

This one is super tricky. It is one thing to address behavior modification during the day, or even when going to bed at night, but addressing undesirable behaviors in the middle of the night can be extra complicated. First, the child is sleepy and not in his rosiest mood. Second, YOU are tired and impatient, and certainly not in YOUR rosiest mood either. What makes things worse is that your child generally gets the benefit of a nap to “catch up” on the sleep, while the parent simply becomes more and more sleep deprived. Not a fun situation. 

My own son went through this phase when he was a bit older, from about 12-18 months. Whether you are dealing with an infant or a toddler, waking frequently in the middle of the night can be hard on everyone! There is no magic fairy dust to solve this problem, but here are a few ideas that just might help.

Fill up the tank

Infants have the desire for sucking for 2 reasons: for calming (non-nutritive sucking), and for calories/nutrition (nutritive sucking). Use of a pacifier is non-nutritive sucking, but it is easy for a hungry baby to confuse the two. It certainly doesn’t hurt to make sure that your baby has a full tummy before nodding off to sleep to help increase the odds of sleeping through the night.

Create a pacifier paradise
This seemed to work fairly well with my own son. I always put him to bed with multiple pacifiers. After around 6 months of age, a baby should be able to put a pacifier in his mouth. Placing several pacifiers in the crib at once increases the odds that he will find the pacifier himself and solve the problem without your intervention. Not to mention, teaching this self-sufficiency and independence is a useful life skill. One time I moved his crib and found THIRTEEN pacifiers stuck between the crib mattress and the wall!  Yes, this is a bit excessive, but we got sleep!

Make the pacifier less desirable 

Basically, this step is simply making the child not want the pacifier as much in the middle of the night. Some tricks to making the pacifier less desirable:

• Decreasing/eliminating nighttime feedings (but only AFTER your child’s pediatrician thinks that your child is growing well enough to eliminate them).
• Manipulating the pacifier so that it is less desirable by slowly cutting more and more of the pacifier tip until it no longer provides the desired sucking effect (modify with caution as to not produce a chocking hazard). 
• Eliminating the overall use of the pacifier so that the child knows that the pacifier is no longer an option (more tips on weaning from the pacifier next week!)

Monitor the situation

The video baby monitor is the best investment I have ever made. Even at ages 4 and 7, I still use it to check up on my kiddos at night! When my babies cried at night, I always had a “head off the mattress rule”. Babies, children, and even grownups can make random sounds, noises and even talk/cry in their sleep. When I heard crying, I would always intently watch the monitor (I promise, I was not simply ignoring my child!). If the baby’s head was still on the mattress, then he obviously was not too upset. This allowed for the possibility that he was simply crying in his sleep.  It also gave the baby the opportunity to self-soothe.  Again, I really feel that you can’t start teaching problem-solving skills too young!  If you are patient and wait just a bit, sometimes, just sometimes, the child learns to soothe himself – either with sucking on his hand, finding the pacifier, or simply moving into a more comfortable position. 

Does your baby sleep through the night?  

What did you do to stop frequent night wakings?  Please share your ideas!

share@childrenstherapyteam.com

Resources:

Sleep Training 101, Mondays with Melissa Blog, November 2014 

Common Mistakes Parents Make with Pacifiers, Mondays with Melissa Blog, June 2015

Bye Bye Binky, Ending the Pacifier Habit, Marguerite Lamb, Parents, accessed June 2015

Ask Dr. Sears – Weaning Off the Pacifier, William Sears, Parenting, accessed June 2015

Pacifier Mistakes

 

Dear Melissa,

Should my child use a pacifier?

I think pacifiers are great...when used correctly. There are times such as car rides, church, etc..., where the pacifier is your best friend at trying to keep a child happy, quiet, and calm when you have few alternatives. However, a pacifier is not always the best option. Try to avoid common mistakes parents often make. 

1. Do not let your child form a bad pacifier habit.
I sometimes see an infant/young child happily and fully engaged in an activity, but still have a pacifier in his/her mouth. In this case, the pacifier is simply a bad habit. I have been at the park a lot lately with my own kiddos, and I am amazed at the number of children running, climbing, and playing on the equipment that are still using a pacifier. Yes, a child that is this old is probably too old for a pacifier, but that is beside the point. If a child is getting all of that fantastic sensory input from running, jumping and playing, then the pacifier is probably not necessary for calming, and is just a bad habit.

2. Do not offer a pacifier without regard for the child's actual needs.
Listen to and observe your child. Respond to their need for a hug, play, attention, etc... When you respond to your child's actual need, you will likely find the child is more content than they would be with a pacifier.

3. Do not offer a pacifier while your child is talking.
Now, I’m not a speech therapist. For that perspective, please see TEAM Speech Therapist Connie Clark's comments on pacifiers in my blog from last week. However, my experience has been that whenever a child is trying to speak to me with a pacifier in their mouth, they are nearly impossible to understand. If a child is old enough to talk, then he probably shouldn’t be using a pacifier during the day. If the child is still using a pacifier during the day (and you are an Auntie or family friend), have the child spit the pacifier out at least while talking so you can understand them more clearly. 

4. Don't allow an older child to continue use a pacifier.
Weaning a child from a pacifier is hard. Pacifiers are calming! If you take away what calms him down, you will have a cranky child, and who wants that? I agree with the pediatricians, dentists, and speech therapists that its ideal for babies to stop pacifier use by 1 year of age. I prefer to gently start weaning from the pacifier at 1 year of age, and slowly take away more and more environments in which the pacifier is used, until the pacifier is completely eliminated by 2-2 ½ years of age. In my experience working with children with sensory processing disorders, I know that children sometimes find other, less desirable, calming methods when their pacifier is taken away. So, a gradual approach to weaning is highly recommended.

Finally, my take as a pediatric occupational therapist is that babies use “non-nutritive” sucking (that is sucking without eating or obtaining nutrition) even before they are born. It is probably an infant’s first “occupation”. I remember my daughter sucking on her hands in the delivery room when she was only minutes old. Given correct use, I recommend pacifiers as I would much rather a child use a pacifier to calm themselves, instead of sucking on their hands (which are often germy) or over using the bottle/breast.

So, there you have it. I have provided a multidisciplinary approach to the question “should my child use a pacifier?” I have discussed a dentist's concern about orthodontic problems. A speech therapist's concern about articulation problems. And finally, my sensory-based OT perspective.

Related to this topic, in next week's post I will tackle this parent question, "Whenever my 10 month old cries at night I respond by giving him a pacifier. The problem is he cries 4 or 5 times a nights until a pacifier magically reappears in his mouth again. Help, I'm sleep deprived. How do I wean this child from his pacifier?"

Do you have questions you would like me to explore on my weekly blog? 

Please share! share@childrenstherapyteam.com

Resources: 

• Pacifiers, American Academy of Pediatrics (accessed May 2015)
• Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, (SIDS), Mayo Clinic (accessed May 2015) 

• Thumb Sucking and Pacifier Use, American Dental Association (accessed May 2015)
• Pacifier Overuse May Harm Speech Skills, American Speech-Language Hearing Association  (accessed May 2015)
• Pacifier Time vs. Language Development, Monday's with Melissa Blog (June 2015)
• Are Pacifier's OK? A Dentist's take, Monday's with Melissa Blog (June 2015)

Pacifier Time vs. Language Development

Dear Melissa,
Thanks for your pacifier post last week. Should I be concerned about pacifier use impacting my child’s speech development?

To respond to your question I have reached out to one of our Children's Therapy TEAM's Pediatric Speech/Language Pathologist, Connie Clark.

Melissa:  Should infants be allowed to use pacifiers?  Why or why not?

Connie:  I think pacifiers are OK if the infant wants it. It should not be forced, but they are perfectly fine for helping to learn a coordinated sucking pattern before feeding. Also, pacifiers are certainly helpful if they help to comfort the baby.

Melissa: Are certain pacifiers better than others from a speech/language pathology perspective? 
Connie: I prefer for a child to use pacifiers with a smaller nipple. Unless the child uses a pacifier for an extended period of time and until they are older, it should not effect dentition or tongue placement. However, it is generally a good idea to limit the time an infant uses a pacifier, particularly if the child is not actually requesting it. 

Melissa: At what age do you recommend weaning/eliminating use of a pacifier?

Connie:  Generally, I feel that babies should start weaning from a pacifier when their teeth start to come in, or before 1 year of age. 

Melissa: What specific problems might occur if an infant continues to use a pacifier well into toddler-hood?

Connie: There is some mixed literature as to what extent prolonged pacifier use will impact language skills. We do know that there is some correlation between pacifier use and an increased risk of ear infections in infants (Nimela, Uhari, & Mottonen, 1995) and this can cause temporary disturbances in hearing. We also know that prolonged pacifier use can cause dental anomalies such as cross bites, open bites, and dental arches (Larsson, 1994).  These dental anomalies can then in turn impact articulation (Boshart, 2001) as well as create a tongue thrust which will also distort articulation (Van Norman, 2001). 

Melissa: What literature supports the efficacy of prolonged pacifier use?

Connie: Shotts et al (2008) found no real difference between children who never used a pacifier, children who stopped pacifier use by 15 months, and children who continued to use a pacifier past 18 months. This said, while not every child who uses a pacifier past the age of 1 year will develop problems, I think it is still a good idea to begin to eliminate the use of pacifiers at this time to help make sure that the young child’s speech can develop as normally as possible. 

Melissa: What is your biggest concern regarding pacifier use?

Connie:  If a child is old enough to communicate with words, phrases and sentences, it is very difficult to speak clearly with a pacifier in your mouth. So whether there are long term effects or not, communication can definitely be interrupted by constant and prolonged use of a pacifier.    

Thank you Connie Clark! Also, thank you to TEAM Speech Therapist Amy Love-Smith for your consultation. Next week I will offer my own thoughts on this from an occupational therapy perspective. 

 What are your thoughts on the risks/benefits of pacifier use? 

 We would love to hear from you! Also if you have a questions that you would like me to address in my weekly blog please don't hesitate to reach out to me.

email: share@childrenstherapyteam.com

Resources: 

• Boshart, C. A. (2001). The pacifier: Making the decision. Termecula, California: Speech Dynamics Inc.
• LaPrarie, D. Goldacker, F. E., Throneburg, R. M., & Calvert, L. K. (2010). Effect of Pacifier use on Speech Articulation, Poster retrieved from http://www.asha.org/events/convention/handouts/2010/1313-laprairie-danielle/ American Speech and Hearing Association Annual Convention in Philadelphia (downloaded May 2015)  
• Larsson, E. (1994). Artificial sucking habits: Etiology, prevalence and effect on occlusion. International Journal of Orofacial Myology, 20, 10-21. 
• Niemela, M., Uhari, M., Mottonen, M. (1995). A pacifier increases the risk of recurrent acute otitis media in children in day care centers, Pediatrics (1995) 
• Shotts, L., McDaniel, M., Neeley, R. (2008). The Impact of Prolonged Pacifier Use on Speech Articulation: A Preliminary Investigation, Contemporary Issues in Communication Science and Disorders. Volume 35.  72-75 (accessed May 2015)
• Van Norman, R. A. (2001). Why we can’t afford to ignore prolonged digit sucking. Contemporary Pediatrics, Van Norman, R. A. (2001). 18(6), 61-65. 
• Pacifiers, American Academy of Pediatrics (accessed May 2015)
• Pacifier Overuse May Harm Speech Skills, American Speech-Language-Hearing Association (Downloaded May 2015)
• Pediatric Dental Associates, Northwest Arkansas
• Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, (SIDS), Mayo Clinic (accessed May 2015) 
• Thumb Sucking and Pacifier Use, American Dental Association (accessed May 2015)
• 10 Tips to Breastfeeding for a Year, La Leche League (accessed May 2015)

Are pacifiers OK? A Dentist's Take

Dear Melissa: 

I am pregnant and due next month with my first child. What are your thoughts on the use of pacifiers? If I do choose to use a pacifier, which ones are best? 

First of all, congratulations!  There are so many choices to make with a new baby that can be a bit overwhelming all at once. Which doctors should you use, disposable or cloth diapers, which crib to buy, etc... The use of a pacifier is one of those decisions that is often tricky for new parents. Many medical professionals as well as parents have very strong opinions as to whether to use a pacifier or not. 

The American Academy of Pediatrics reports that there is no harm in the use of pacifiers and that pacifiers may actually have a preventative effect for SIDS. However, the La Leche League strongly discourages the use of pacifiers and wants infants to solely breastfeed. Personally, I have always been curious to see the different medical perspectives on this controversial pacifier topic. So, first we will explore the issue from a dental perspective. So I'm reaching out to my favorite local pediatric dentist, Dr. Karen Green from Pediatric Dental Associates:

Melissa:  Should infants be allowed pacifiers? 

Dr. Green:  Babies have a natural reflex called non-nutritive sucking, and will try to suck on objects even when they are not hungry. Some babies even suck on their fingers or thumbs before they are born. In this respect, a pacifier is not a bad option and can soothe the baby.  It may even be a better option than the child using a finger or thumb to suck on. A pacifier would likely be more hygienic than sucking on a finger/hand that was also used to touch everything else! In addition, a pacifier habit is much more easily broken than a thumb/finger habit. 

Melissa:  I have noticed that some pacifiers are labeled “orthodontic”. Are some pacifiers better than others?

Dr. Green:  Yes, some pacifiers carry the label “orthodontic”. Basically, the flatter the pacifier is at the roof of the mouth, the less it may affect the palate (or roof of the mouth) and it is less likely to cause orthodontic problems with prolonged use. 

Melissa: If an infant/child does enjoy using a pacifier, at what age to you recommend weaning/eliminating it?

Dr. Green:  I recommend weaning/eliminating by 2 years of age to avoid long term bite complications. If a child repeatedly sucks on a finger, thumb, or pacifier over long periods of time, the upper front teeth may tip outward and create an open space in the front of the mouth where the top teeth and the bottom teeth no longer meet. 

A special thanks to Dr. Karen Green for her opinions on pacifier use!  We will also be interviewing her in a few weeks regarding her opinions on bottles and sippy cups.  

front office area at Pediatric Dental Associates and Orthodontics

Do you have questions you would like me to explore on my weekly blog? 

Please share! share@childrenstherapyteam.com

Resources: 

Pacifiers, American Academy of Pediatrics (accessed May 2015)

Pacifier Overuse May Harm Speech Skills, American Speech-Language-Hearing Association (Downloaded May 2015)

Pediatric Dental Associates, Northwest Arkansas

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), Mayo Clinic (accessed May 2015) 

Thumb Sucking and Pacifier Use, American Dental Association (Downloaded May 2015)

10 Tips to Breastfeeding for a Year, La Leche League (Downloaded May 2015)

Redshirt Kindergartner?

Dear Melissa,

My son will turn 5 in June. I am torn between starting Kindergarten this fall, or waiting another year. Your thoughts? 

As a pediatric occupational therapist, this is a question I'm often asked. Quite frankly, many parents of children who have summer birthdays begin asking me this question when their child is only 2 or 3 years old. When college athletes choose to "redshirt" a year before fully joining the team, they benefit from having an extra year to become stronger and more skilled in his/her sport. Similarly, some parents choose to "redshirt" their 5 year olds, holding them back from attending kindergarten even when they are old enough to attend. But, is having this extra year to mature and strengthen academic skills always the best choice? There are arguments on both sides of this debate. Here are a few of them.

An Argument for NOT Redshirting 

According to Dr. Elizabeth Graue, professor of early childhood education at the University of Wisconsin at Madison, "The oldest kids in a class aren't always the ones who excel...by third grade it all evens out. The difference of a year between two youngsters isn't noticeable at all." Additionally, the National Association for Education of Young Children (NAEYC) strongly recommends that all children should enter school when their school district says that the child is chronologically ready. The NAEYC further states that it is the job of the school to create an environment conducive to learning for each and every child, no matter what their developmental level is upon entering kindergarten. 

An Argument for Redshirting

Unfortunately we don’t live in a perfect world. While I understand the NAEYC's perspective, I'm concerned that some schools just don’t have resources to provide the extra support that some children need. AND, the demands of kindergarten keep getting greater and greater. Some expect children to be reading before they even start the first day of school, and they certainly must know all of their letters, sounds, and numbers. These expectations can be even more challenging for boys. Fred Brown, former president of the National Association of Elementary School Principals, reports that  "Generally, there is a developmental delay of at least six months between boys and girls, so a boy with a late birthday may be at even more of a disadvantage.”  

Key questions to consider

When helping families over the years there are certain questions I consider before giving the green light for kindergarten. It is certainly not necessary to respond, "yes" to all of the questions below. But, it is a good place to start. 

• Can the child color a picture and cut it out, including consistently using his/her dominant hand?
• Can the child write (not copy) his/her name with reasonable legibility. This counts even if it is just the first name in upper case letters. 
• Can the child sit at the table for at least 20 minutes at a time. This could be for meals, playing legos, coloring, etc.? 
• Can the child generally follow verbal directions? Not only does your child comprehend verbal directions, but does he generally want to follow directions?
• Can the child use the bathroom independently?  This includes generally being independent with clothing management, wiping, flushing, and washing hands.
• Does the child generally get along with other children?  Can your child share?  Is your child aggressive toward other children? Is your child always too shy to talk to another child? 
• Does your child use materials appropriately. In general, can your child use various toys, eating utensils, art materials appropriately? After your child is finished with these materials, is she capable of putting them away properly?
• Probably most importantly, is your child curious and ready to learn?

Consult with experts, then trust your gut

Ultimately parents have to trust their gut instincts. However, I applaud parents who try to fully inform themselves before making a decision. The professionals that regularly work with your child will likely each be able to offer advice. They may either alleviate unfounded concerns, or point out possible concerns given their area of expertise. Consider consulting with the following: 

• Pre-K Teacher
• Occupational therapist 
• Physical therapist
• Speech/language pathologist
• ABA therapist 
• Pediatrician

Do you have questions that you would like me to address in my weekly blog?

email: share@childrenstherapyteam.com

Resources:  

Kindergarten Readiness Indicator (accessed May 2015)

8 signs Your Child is Ready to Start Kindergarten, Amy Ettiger, Care.com (accessed May 2015)

Is Your Child Ready for Kindergarten?, Beth Levine, SesameStreet.org  (accessed May 2015) 

Is My Child Ready for Kindergarten? Ben Mardell and Melissa Tonachel, National Association for Education of Young Children (Accessed May 2015)

Children's Therapy TEAM, Offering individualized perdiatric therapies (OT, PT, ST and DT) in Northwest Arkansas

SUMMER! Water Safety

Dear Melissa,

This is your mother. I know last year you posted on your blog various excellent information on keeping kids safe around water this summer. However, BOTH of your children (my lovely grandchildren) had close calls with drowning last summer. Can you please remind your readers of water safety tips?  Love, Grandma Ro Ro

Yes, mother! So, my extended family was sitting at the dinner table this week and we were discussing various boating and swimming plans for this summer. I was reminded how close BOTH of my kiddos (aged 3 & 6 years) had come to drowning the summer before. Therefore, I figured that a water safety reminder was due. And, quite frankly, I might just make this a habit to re-research, re-write, and re-post this important information EVERY summer.

The CDC reports that drowning is the second leading cause of death for children aged 1-4 years (with the most common cause of death being birth defects).  For children under 14 years, drowning is also the second leading cause of death (behind motor vehicle crashes). 1 

A few reminders for keeping your kids safe!

Teach your kids to swim! 

Boys & Girls Club, American Red Cross, private pools/clubs (you don’t necessarily have to be a member), local colleges/universities, word of mouth private teachers, the options are limitless! Which reminds me, I need to sign my own kids up for swimming lessons this year!

Know your child’s personality/abilities. 

Does your child have Autism, ADHD, or is he impulsive? Know your child’s natural personality and if he tends to be a risk-taker or not. If he is the risky type, be even MORE vigilant than you would otherwise. Drowning is the #1 cause of death for children with Autism (Autism/Asperger’s Digest) However, don’t just assume that your very timid child who won’t even put his face in the water is automatically safe because he is timid. That is how my 6 year old who couldn’t swim a stroke ended up in the deep end of the public pool.
Underestimate your child’s swimming ability!

Yes, your child may have passed off the check list as a beginner swimmer, and yes, he may be able to swim across the deep end of the pool, but don’t then just assume that he can swim well enough to keep himself safe. When it comes to water safety, maintain extra vigilant with less than ideal swimming conditions such as the lake, swim parties, canoeing, the ocean, etc. It is also important to share your child’s swimming abilities (or lack there of) with any camp counselors, babysitters, or family friends who might be taking your child swimming. It is always a good idea to make your child wear a life jacket, just in case. Yes, many children will balk at the idea of continued use of the life jacket, but the rules are the rules!

It is easy to have a short lapse in supervision.
Again, true story. I was IN the water, sitting on the pool steps with my 3 year old within an arms reach. I turned my head to watch my niece doing a flip in the pool. I turn my head back, and my daughter is completely silent, under water, no splashing. Scary. Ninety percent of drowning deaths occur while the child is being supervised. 2  Unlike what you see in the movies, drowning is generally silent. No splashing. No screaming. Silent. Again, scary.

Make your home pool Fort Knox. 

Put up a barrier fence. Move pool furniture away from this fence so that it can’t be used as a step stool. Make sure pool toys are not left in the pool. Install a pool alarm to alert you if the pool water is disturbed. Lock back doors/gates to create additional barriers to the pool area. You get the idea. The more layers of protection you have surrounding the pool, the less likely a child will wander off and decide to go for a dip, alone.

Yes, swimming is excellent exercise and a great way to cool off in the summer. Just make sure your child is safe and supervised. And by the way, don’t forget the sun block!

Do you have questions that you would like me to address in my weekly blog?

email: share@childrenstherapyteam.com

Resources:

Unintentional Drowning: Get the facts, Centers for Disease Control:  (Accessed May 2015)

Water Safety: The Ultimate Life Skill, Autism/Asperger’s Digest (Accessed May 2015)

Pool & Spa Safety, (Accessed May 2015)

Home Pool Safety, American Red Cross (Accessed May 2015)

Water Safety at Home, Safe Kids Worldwide (Accessed May 2015)

Children's Therapy TEAM, Leading Pediatric Therapy Care in Northwest Arkansas